You can try using NIP-04 and see how it goes than switch to NIP-44 and see
Discussion
assuming "secure DMs" are NIP 44 DMs?
and deselection it makes them NIP-04?
because that works.
Yes, Legacy DMs and NIP-04
You can see a Shield whenever you send a DM, the green one is NIP-44 DMs and the crossed one is NIP-04 one. Thats how you can tell in YakiHonne the type of DM you are getting or sending, along with the toggle in the upper-right DM view.
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