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My missus has been branching out finding new friends but spent the afternoon with 3 of her old friend group.

Two 7s and an 8 - all very eligible girls.

All 3 of them single.

One of the 7s recently so - she’d been dating a fella for 2-3 months and he found out she was still on Tinder so he split. Her excuse was that they weren’t committed/engaged so he shouldn’t have had a problem - the other 2 girls agreed.

All 3 of them have ridiculously high expectations of what they want in a man. Basically nothing less than a multimillionaire rich guy with a sweet car and a six pack who will take her on regular holidays on a yacht.

These girls are broken. There are 9s and 10s coming up behind them who might actually snag this level of man, the handful of them that exist; these 7s and 8s who aren’t spring chickens any more are simply living a fantasy.

They only talk about what they want and have very little concept of what they can offer in a relationship.

I know there are plenty of broken fellas, expecting girls to behave like pornstars and put up with their adolescent behaviour - this is not some one-sided problem.

But this problem is unhealthy for all of us. Society’s stability is based on people pairing up, having children, and trying to produce value so they can create a better world for their offspring.

The whole thing breaks down when the pairing stops. I think a lot of the social issues we see around us are downstream of this point. It explains why statism is at all time highs. Why people buy in to existential crises like climate cultism or Covid. And why populism has returned.

The older I get the better I understand why religion has been so important to humanity; that institution is what anchored this part of the social order in every society for centuries and it’s absence is now acutely felt.

I hope those girls find a man, a suitable partner, and that we all benefit from them contributing to the extended order but man I really think this generation is going to have a big miss.

Online dating exacerbated this problem so much. Because women get attention from a hundred men, and men give attention to a hundred women. So women will have repeated unfulfilling interactions with guys who really don't care about them very much.

It gives women the illusion that they can have their choice of men, and sets everyone up for repeated disappointment.

If all the single people could just get in the same room together, and everybody pick somebody, this would all work itself out.

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Online dating is the elephant in the room.

As soon as anyone complains about it there will be anecdotes of the few people who did meet a partner that way, and flat out denials that it’s a problem.

After all, more people have more options so how could that be a bad thing?

Well exactly as you point out - tons of women get tons of attention so they believe they should shoot for the best of them and skew their expectations upwards, the high status guys get to shoot fish in a barrel, and then the bulk of otherwise eligible fellas get hung out to dry.

That there hasn’t been a significant backlash from “conservatives” in any Western country about these platforms but rather just complaints about fkn TikTok, shows that our “elites” are content with this breakdown in social cohesion so long as they can control the narratives.