does it get harder to find close friends as you get older? or is that just a mindset?
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I think it might be directly due to the fact that older people are more likely to be spending time and energy on their families and naturally the other social bonds must suffer at least a little
I think it has a lot to do with responsibility vs free time. I had much more time and far less responsibility as a young man, and that let me spend the time on friendships. As you get older responsibilities stack up, leaving less time.
My age grew parallel with my maturity and so the more mature I got, the less bullshit I tolerated, the less friends I choose to have.
i think i just wonder why, in real life, i find so few people who are excited about ideas, and trying things, and change, and personal innovation, building community, things like that.
i wondering if im not doing something right, because i dont want to assume there is this much withdrawn suckage out there. but so many people seem small, dead, and retracted.
I think a lot of people simply go on about life checking the prescrubes boxes to living and don't realise it doesn't have to be that way. That it can be an everlasting journey and adventure as long as the mind and body are able.
Yes. But not just for obvious reasons like time and family.
I can’t stand most small talk “friends” I used too hang out with when I was younger. So actively blocking some new people and cutting out old stale ones feels better and better.
Probably some day this will reverse and I’ll start letting in new shallow friendships back in but for now it feels liberating
It gets harder. As you get older you begin to realize how few of the "friends" you have are genuine friends.
Jiu jitsu helps
How do you define close friends? What do you plan to do with close friends? I have found that defining what I want in life and what my goals and what my purpose in life is has really helped me define what a friend would be and who I want to be friends with. Brings extreme calm once you do the work on yourself.