My dad wasn't a pastor but he was friends with enough of them that I can empathize with the lack of privacy.
You might be onto something about gen X. A lot of them describe themselves as latchkey kids who had to become self-sufficient but in retrospect it does seem like a lot of effort went into scaring the crap out of us. By the time we got to high school, we were convinced that we were gonna end up on a milk carton, run over by a drunk driver or force-fed highly addictive illegal drugs. 🤣