You’re right about the age gap. They each had separate phones. But the rules were not so much rules as they were locked-down devices, pretty much bricked for anything that was fun or entertainment. The hardest part came later and is going on now. The 16-year-old watched the freedom gained at 17 by the 18-year-old, and the new complete freedom at 18. As siblings we can’t help but compare ourselves to one another. That earlier mass requested trust feels unfair at this point to the second born. But I’m holding fast. Age matters on this stuff.