Makes sense. What age range are you, if you want to share? Do you have children?
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Mid-30s, no children. Not opposed to having children for the record, just haven't found a life partner where that's been a feasible option.
Do you see finding that patner and having a family as critial part of what you want to do in this lifetime?
I wouldn't say it's critical. I would like to have that happen at some point. But if it doesn't happen, then it doesn't happen. I'm not going to try and force a relationship and have kids with some rando because I feel the need to procreate.
To me, it's a natural thing for a young man to race to procreate and figure it out after. The mind/fear stops our passions. And for me, there was no greater passion then my 19 yo hard ons. I wanted kids and I didn't give a fuck.
Best non-decision I ever made.
I know it's been said but the time is never "right"
I hope we aren't evolving out of desire to procreate. We need that.
I want to, but Ive lived through enough broken family bullshit in my life where I never want to put my own kid through what I did. So im willing to wait For a stable relationship. It does make me happy that I have friends out there who I see is doing it right.
As long as you have a pure vision and intention to be a good dad, you will. Even bad dads are good. My dad sucked objectively. But he was perfect for me. Of course I now believe in a souls journey. It's all connected.
Of course rushing is never good.
We all have different paths.