i know a gal who's been looking and it seems like the problem she has is the exact inverse. dudes she meets don't add a lot of value. after late 30s, she's already built a life, house, etc, so it's actually hard to find someone who measures up to that level of success.

one dude just looked at her like a cash machine

the next one liked her a lot but wanted her to do all the traveling to go see him. she likes to travel all over, but he couldn't coordinate a simple trip beyond inviting her to his hometown.

i feel a certain level of freezing into my own routines to the point of it being exclusionary to other people. I still hang out with friends that I met in college, or who are very aligned to my personality.

church does seem like a good place to check in. and hopefully the gal is also seeking and ends up at the same church.