You're definitely confusing the idea of what true love ACTUALLY is with what society and centralized media have told you what it should be. Real life is not Hollywood. I don't know a single man (myself included) that will take the time out of his day to sit down and write a poem for the woman he is in love with. How he treats her, how they solve problems together, how they work together to achieve their life goals, and how tolerant they are of each other's imperfections is the "language of love." Trust me, I know.