Definitely, yes, 100% of that. But in my case, my aged grandparents found humor and that transcended their previous difficulties.

And both choice and necessity are simply a reality in long relationships. It’s one of the things that one selects for in a partner, can I rely on my wife in a moment of urgent necessity? My advice from experience—for which I bear the scars: if you fuck up badly before you get married, swallow your pride and find out. It sucks but it’s super important information.