Absolutely understandable. Your perception of your circumstance is astute. I was hoping my children would carefully consider their choices, the verdict is out. I didn’t see my life this way in my youth, my expectation is that they won’t either, but as a parent you have to try. I had a ADHD girlfriend (from Norway lol) she is a journalist, with effort I could keep track of the six different conversations spoken in no particular order when her Adderall wore off, helped with her rough drafts, she speaks seven languages fluently though and as a global journalist that ability to absorb bits of information at an enormous rate proved a superpower. For her it was management and seeking the right niche for her characteristics.
nostr:npub14eng8plhflea40cu3lafnw6nwkxsp5te2v7hzy74lz6a9mjhpaks0wm4rw There was a spanner thrown in the works for me. The choice was a career in software development. Missing was the knowledge that I have ADHD. Deep concentration in solitude isn't really something I can do for work, I think. Paying attention to my external environment, switching between many smaller tasks and communicating comes much more naturally to me. I was about halfway down the mountain when I realised my mistake.
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nostr:npub14eng8plhflea40cu3lafnw6nwkxsp5te2v7hzy74lz6a9mjhpaks0wm4rw Did she learn 7 languages on Adderall or did she just have the opportunity to travel a lot?
She did travel as a child, I understand that she was extremely difficult to rear because she refused to take medication or food consistently. I witnessed her absorbing Russian, it’s one thing to pick up a second or third Romance language, but Russian is pretty unique. I travelled with her for some time, learned about 1000 Norwegian words, I consider myself to be reasonably intelligent, but not near the level or variety of information acquisition she appeared to achieve so easily. She didn’t consider herself literate in any language but Norwegian, even though her Masters was from an American university. She was absolutely functional in all the languages she knew. Maybe this isn’t your niche, but don’t sell yourself short. Norwegian culture puts so much pressure on people to compete for post secondary education, she wasn’t accepted at any Norwegian school of journalism. As they say, C and D grades get degrees everywhere else in the world.