Just some food for thought:
Part of why Iβm certain I would not have met my husband any other way is we lived some 400 miles apart when we first met online.
I knew that since what I wanted to find was very rare to find all in one person, I was going to have to pick my battles. Where someone lives is much easier to change than how someone thinks, so that wasnβt a priority for me.
We got to know each other really well over Skype, and when things were looking pretty serious and I figured out the logistics, I moved closer to where he lived. Neither of us were living where we ultimately wanted to be, anyway, so there was no problem there.
Maybe not everyone can do things that way, but we are proof it can work very well.