I wish I could say I see what you are saying, but I’ve never seen the messages in zaps.
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Use a better client. Damus severely lacks features compared to other apps. Nostur, Primal, and Yakihonne are much better.
I just tried #Nostur and #Yakihone. Conversion was rough on the follower/following count, and now see missing responses in DM and how zap messages are displayed, but those two apps were cluttered vs. simple #damus. I’ll try primal next but keeping expectations low.
If none of those apps work out to your liking, maybe you can convince the Damus team to add the feature you want. It’s useful to see the zap messages on the notes as you scroll. As for follower counts, there’s no consistency with that because it depends which relays your app is pulling people’s contact lists from. Each app handles it its own way. Nostur just shows infinite followed if I remember correctly, which is probably my favorite 🤣