Questions a young man should ask:
- how is her relationship with her father?
- is her mother what I want my wife to be like?
- how does her mother treat her father?
- do I want my daughters to be like her?
Questions a young woman should ask:
- how does he treat his mother?
- is his father what I want my husband to be like?
- how does his father treat his mother?
- do I want my sons to be like him?
There are always exceptions, and some children are able to break bad familial patterns, but these are generally a good starting place. No one should enter #marriage unthinkingly.
A little unsolicited advice, thank you for indulging me.