i used to feel a similar way, though not much anymore. maybe it's a product of being with someone for so long, idk

i feel things viscerally. so in moments of emotional chaos it's very difficult for me to hold, understand, and express my feelings. so what looks like me shutting down is really me trying to process—and probably over analyze lol

Wifey feels this disconnection and perhaps fears that She has hurt me in some way. but instead of Her saying "I'm scared I hurt you. are we good?" She reaches for the physical language of dominance—She may try and "place" me, or trap me, or tease me—something like that.

once i understood that Her "dominance" was really a physical expression of vulnerability and need for emotional safety, i could truly see Her and meet Her where She was. my submission isn't just obedience or ignoring my own feelings, instead it's more like assurance and emotional repair.

in this way, without words, She's intuitively maintaining the connection despite my, and maybe even Her, fragmented feelings. so communication begins in the body first, then the heart, and finally followed up verbally.

does that make sense??