I had dinner with a family elder last week.

He reminded me that my daughter will not carry our family name, nor will my grandson.

It was a subtle comment, but speaks volumes about some conversations/thoughts that may be going on.

My immediate thought was that he was so far wrong on both assertions bc my daughter is not yet married (and she's got no pressure from me or her partner to get married). But I didn't tell him that.

I responded, maybe you're correct, but does it matter these days?!

Their are many males in our family to carry on the name if that is his concern.

They sell gene kits at the pharmacy to tests for these sorts of things now?!

We now have protocols like #Nostr that can be used to track family trees (unalterably) if and when internal family documents artifacts were ever lost.

And if we wanted to rely on government records, don't we all have government ID's now?! Thinking SSN. Why is the name important to him?!

Some additional context;

My niece started her first week at a university this week. She doesn't have to find a job her first year. As a side project and source of income, she's been commissioned by members of the family to combine the broader family documents, family tree artifacts and other projects into one larger, organized and catalogued repository.

Great project for a teenager, driving some lower time preference type questions. Both good and bad.

All that to ask myself "do I care?!"

None of his responses to that question compelled me either way on the matter.

Good morning and happy Friday #Nostr Fam

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