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In a more serious disagreement (aka a blowout fight) with my wife, I often revert to writing my thoughts down in the form of a letter her.

I have taken to running these letters thru ai with the instructions, “make this sound nicer.”

At first I wondered about the ethics of something like this.

I now believe it’s my best use case for ai.

StackSats.IO 2mo ago 💬 2

This is your path to divorce.

If you’re writing letters to your wife, you have completely lost frame.

She’s setting it, you’re operating in hers.

You will not win operating in someone else’s frame. It’s 5/95 success odds, and the 5% are the super skilful negotiators who let themselves lose on purpose to come back from there for negotiation knowing that’s the best chance for them to actually win given the circumstances - ie. not you.

You lose to your wife in some arcade games. In rock, paper, scissors. In a coin toss. Drawing straws. That kind of thing.

You don’t lose to her a battle of strength (obviously), nor wits (it should be just as obvious, but apparently isn’t).

What does your wife need a husband who can’t best her for? Surely she can find another who will and will steer the ship?

Bro, you are on the slipperiest of slopes. Please find your ballsack, give it a good tug, and make sure it’s still there.

You can come back from this.

But you won’t following some feminist bullshit. You’ve got to be THE man or else she will, and then you’re out.

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awayslice 2mo ago

how long have u been married to your wife?

StackinBeets 2mo ago

Unfortunately this is one of those things that is always misunderstood. Only by spending a lot of time doing field research, introspection, and experimenting with how women react to what you do, do you get to see the truth of what we are, and what they are.

I used to be the poet, I used to get flowers, I wrote them songs, I did all the romantic shit you could possibly think of and it only dries them up and thus got me less of what I wanted.

Then you stop trying to be the good guy and poof, they actually reward you for being less nice to them.

It took me 20 years of my adult life being the good guy to realise it. But at least I did. Most will always stay in the happy wife happy life delusion. But happiness trickles down from the man, not the other way around.

Most will always hear our words as mere macho bs. Similar to how bitcoin sounds like a scam to everyone when they first hear about it. Until it starts making sense.