In a more serious disagreement (aka a blowout fight) with my wife, I often revert to writing my thoughts down in the form of a letter her.
I have taken to running these letters thru ai with the instructions, āmake this sound nicer.ā
At first I wondered about the ethics of something like this.
I now believe itās my best use case for ai.
Not an ethical issue if you're also trying to understand why B sounds nicer than A. If you internalize those lessons and you become better at expressing yourself that way, it is just called learningš.
I don't think this is bad at all if your intention is to communicate effectively. It's actually a good idea since you recognize that you may be using an unproductive tone in your writing. I should start doing this for work emails š
Just use it wisely.
Make me look I'm the one in the wrong even though I'm right.
Works every time.
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Trying to convince a woman you're right is impossible because they don't think like we do.
When a woman starts fighting you (on a regular basis) it means she already lost attraction to you and it doesn't matter what you say.
Your argument can be as sound as it possibly can be, she simply won't see it your way, they're not wired like that.
You writing letters to her will make things even worse (I have plenty of experience making every mistake in the book with them)
You have to change your attitude towards her, because you're treating her too well from the sound of it. Don't negotiate with terrorists.
What you can do is a change in attitude towards her, don't take shit from her because she will lose even more respect.
Her feelings will trump any logic you may throw at her if your attitude towards her is not one of confidence.
They react to confidence and attitude, not what's correct. This point is vital to understand.
Yeah, I went down the women rabbit hole as hard as I did with Bitcoin haha.
They're not to blame, it's just their nature to challenge your manlihood and you gotta rise above that.
From your feed.
You got a good thing going on in your life my new fren š
This is your path to divorce.
If youāre writing letters to your wife, you have completely lost frame.
Sheās setting it, youāre operating in hers.
You will not win operating in someone elseās frame. Itās 5/95 success odds, and the 5% are the super skilful negotiators who let themselves lose on purpose to come back from there for negotiation knowing thatās the best chance for them to actually win given the circumstances - ie. not you.
You lose to your wife in some arcade games. In rock, paper, scissors. In a coin toss. Drawing straws. That kind of thing.
You donāt lose to her a battle of strength (obviously), nor wits (it should be just as obvious, but apparently isnāt).
What does your wife need a husband who canāt best her for? Surely she can find another who will and will steer the ship?
Bro, you are on the slipperiest of slopes. Please find your ballsack, give it a good tug, and make sure itās still there.
You can come back from this.
But you wonāt following some feminist bullshit. Youāve got to be THE man or else she will, and then youāre out.
how long have u been married to your wife?
Unfortunately this is one of those things that is always misunderstood. Only by spending a lot of time doing field research, introspection, and experimenting with how women react to what you do, do you get to see the truth of what we are, and what they are.
I used to be the poet, I used to get flowers, I wrote them songs, I did all the romantic shit you could possibly think of and it only dries them up and thus got me less of what I wanted.
Then you stop trying to be the good guy and poof, they actually reward you for being less nice to them.
It took me 20 years of my adult life being the good guy to realise it. But at least I did. Most will always stay in the happy wife happy life delusion. But happiness trickles down from the man, not the other way around.
Most will always hear our words as mere macho bs. Similar to how bitcoin sounds like a scam to everyone when they first hear about it. Until it starts making sense.
What is your desired outcome?
What is the disagreement about?
People don't talk to each other anymore. They just send the upset party to their personal HR AI to deal with it smh (I'm joking)
