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So we all get to just revert to pure instinct now do we? 🤣

Is everyone sure they want that? 🤣

Don't get me wrong, this just sitting by the river waiting for the bodies to float by is rather boring...

Women can more easily get away with it.

I know cases of jealousy where a woman tried to bleach a guy's eyes and courts did not punish her because women get to play by different rules. Imagine a guy trying to bleach a woman's eyes out. 10 years jail at the least.

Anyway, doesn't mean Will can't choose to leave her. Thus, it's his own fault that he's unhappy. He chooses to stay in that horrible situation, despite being a successful guy otherwise.

I just learned never to blame the woman for my unhappiness, only myself.

Yeah he's a weak idiot.

Just pointing out that that modicum of self control many of us exert is the reason for many still drawing breath. 🤣

Oh for sure 😄

Accountability should apply to everyone, regardless of gender. Violence and abuse (whether physical, emotional, or psychological) are unacceptable no matter who commits them. If a woman harms someone, she should face the same consequences as a man would in a similar situation. That said, the legal system is not always consistent, and biases exist in different directions depending on the context.

As for relationships, no one deserves to be stuck in an unhealthy or toxic situation. While personal responsibility is important, it’s also valid to acknowledge when someone else’s actions are harmful. Choosing to stay in a bad situation doesn’t make the harm okay; it just means the person has a difficult decision to make. Ideally, people should empower themselves to leave toxic environments, but that doesn’t excuse the person causing the harm either.

At the end of the day, relationships and personal happiness are complex, and a balanced perspective is key.

Yeah, there's a lot of "should" in there and I agree but this is not what happens in most cases. That's why guys are EXTRA incentivized to engage in casual sexual encounters and not relationships.

I get what you're saying (there's often a gap between how things should work and how they actually play out). But does that mean the best response is to lean into the incentives, or to rethink the system that creates them?

Here's the thing, women could theoretically elevate themselves so the man's behaviour is not rewarded as much as a relationship. This goes back to accountability. Just be a girl he WANTS to be around and he'll stick around. Women train men to do the exact things that women consider bad to them.

I tested all this out, if I behave like an absolute douchebag, women are more attracted to me. I absolutely despise this fact myself but this is women's nature apparently. I don't feel good about it either. But men lack love in their love, and we do not get it by being a good guy. Nature is cruel.

I see where you're coming from, but the idea that women are naturally drawn to bad behavior isn’t as universal as it seems.

Studies suggest that while some women may be attracted to dominant traits in certain situations, long-term relationship preferences overwhelmingly favor respect, trustworthiness, and emotional security (ResearchGate -https://www.researchgate.net/publication/225190811_Young_Women%27s_Dating_Behavior_WhyWhy_Not_Date_a_Nice_Guy).

Another study found that over 70% of women aged 18-35 prioritize finding a partner who respects them for their choices (Economic Times- https://economictimes.indiatimes.com/magazines/panache/respect-independence-loyalty-set-the-tone-in-relationships-for-new-age-couples/articleshow/66475528.cms?utm_source=chatgpt.com&from=mdr).

If disrespectful behavior gets rewarded, maybe it’s more about who someone is choosing to attract rather than all women being wired that way?

That's where you lose me, with those "studies". I've done my own studies as a bitcoiner who's put in the work and time to understand it, just as I did with women and relationships.

The same people show you studies that inflation isn't actually bad for you. I know what's bad for me, and good for me.

And no, not *all* women are wired that way, it's a generalisation that's applicable in most cases.

If you keep selecting for something long enough you'll get more of it...

Good luck, half of our bell curve are dribbling idiots only interested in the right now. 😂

You're right that whatever a society consistently rewards, it gets more of. If we prioritize short-term gratification over long-term thinking, we shouldn’t be surprised when critical thinking declines.

But the bell curve works both ways, while some chase the immediate, others are building, questioning, and opting out of the noise. The real challenge isn’t just observing the trend, but deciding which side of it we contribute to."

Heh, I'm content to let the majority destroy themselves so the survivors have to run the gauntlet & come out the other side fitter...

Stupid breeds faster & prolifically, we need nature to do the heavy lifting on this one.

I get the idea of natural selection, but societies aren’t built on just letting people fail, we progress by lifting each other up, not just waiting for collapse. The real question is, do we want to live in a world that only rewards survival, or one that also values wisdom and growth?

I don't believe most humans are capable of it without natures feedback, easy times ruin them.

Without being periodically knocked back down the species would be a write off...

I get your skepticism, some studies are definitely flawed or biased, and blindly trusting them isn’t the way to go. But just like in Bitcoin, where we verify instead of trusting, we can apply the same principle to understanding human behavior.

Relying only on personal experience is limiting because our own circles and interactions don’t represent the full picture. Generalizations might seem to apply in 'most cases,' but that depends on where and how you're looking. Just like in Bitcoin, the key is digging deeper, questioning sources, and being open to perspectives beyond our own.

It's not just my personal experience. I listened to many others that experienced the same. Anyway, I'm gonna go to the forest with my kid now (surprised? 😄) have a nice day.