Your kids don't fit in the "box" of society and they will make them fit...Please help your kids not to fit in that box...!
I don't believe in ADHD....I believe in their liveliness, their connection to source, they know wha's best for them, but they need strong parents, to protect them from the system. I know this is challenging. How about considering a Waldorf school or a school out in a forest or democratic school....there are options.
Best of luck to your family 💚