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I struggle with this topic myself. I understand this article wasn't for me, so I apologize for hijacking. Pressure for what I would call "extreme specialization", at least in any STEM field is very high. I would think this is mostly particular to higher education areas (college educated workforce).

For instance, the amount of job listings that I see for "Senior React + Tailwind developer" or "Spring Boot" (4-6 years experience usually) etc. Highly specialized frameworks. These specialized requirements are nearly 180/200 job postings I view per day. While it does mean someone without college experience spent a few years drilling down specifically on React or ASP.NET or whatever. It takes years of education and self education to even understand the most basic of technology UNDER the stack you specialize in. I'm saying it's impossible by the age of, say 24, to understand how a computer actually works from your high level code to assembly language (maybe even a little hardware understanding) AND have professional development skills, leadership skills, and product/design skills, AND have 4-6 years experience in that SINGULAR specialization. I just don't believe that can be done unless you're extremely autistic.

But this is it, possibly why my software job hunt is going poorly, I don't specialize in any modern frameworks in fact, I despise most of them and don't keep it a secret.

Just one, highly specific example, I'm sure you and I could have the same discussion in product, logistics, or automotive etc. I think this is even becoming a thing in construction if you don't want to be a laborer all your life. You better start getting good at CAD for example, then specialize in CAD, then specialize in idk "structure" or lasers or wood, and even further. I'm sure nostr:npub1q6ya7kz84rfnw6yjmg5kyttuplwpauv43a9ug3cajztx4g0v48eqhtt3sh could share the same stories about gross specialization in the mechanical/fab/engineering field.

My friends have definitely required their wives bring home an income, but I don't think they really care what it is, although there is a lot of what I'll call "equality propaganda" that leaked into my generation. Men get to say, I will not marry you unless you provide some portion of the income. That a massive other topic.

Men are only valuable to a society so long as they can provide resources and/or protection, that's the only option we were given. I may be willing to change my mind on this in the future, but I don't see any other way around that.

ah i didn't notice the commentary about women

ya know i have to think about that, it's kinda important if i'm gonna have one around...

i kinda like the idea of having some deep conversations about the subject of "inside work" - the benefits of being a housewife and being able to sometimes ask for outrageous things and on a fairly regular, and unpredictable basis, being treated like a princess, with all the trimmings, fancy carriage once in a while, some special place, a few days where she does nothing but stare at the sea and get massaged by nice chinese masseuses and soak in mineral spas and such

i mean, idk how to explain it exactly, womans are not supposed to be employees

employees are slaves, wives get much better treatment, they are princesses... and heroes...

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No wife I know is getting treated like a princess.

i don't mean all the time lol... sheesh

Neither did I. 😏

idk what to say

i guess this is fiat and maybe it's not so bad i'm single in this time

Well, most wives are also mothers and their husbands are fathers. We're all run ragged and broke. 😂

And, after the kids are grown, you don't change because you've been like that for decades. Besides, kids are never really "done" and grandkids eventually show up.

Romance is a rather modern idea, really, resulting from being wealthy and having hired staff. Someone with 8 kids and a potato farm isn't thinking about romance. They're just happy to have enough to eat, and they just sit on their porch and look at their farm.

well, i maybe have a slightly different idea what it means... i mean like, i build the nice house and it has the nice bath that makes the wife relax and feel good... i get the car that makes it easier for her to do her work, not some stupid thing that isn't practical for her, etc

i mean, every man's house is his castle etc

i don't mean fucking lady diana bentley fancy estate whatever... whatever you got, it's your kingdom