I will look into this when the sun lifts its heavy head and my sword is no longer dull. Relays are of no concern to me. Just the seeds of knowledge. As long as they are planted along your "timeline", I'll get my salary.
If one of your followers connects to all your relays and does so for all their followers, they'll have a large list (so is bad).
You can keep your list smaller, with 5 relay outboxes and 5 inboxes.
In Kagenui, you can see that you have some non-functioning relays. https://nikolat.github.io/kagenui/
There are 4.
If you remove them, things will be better.