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Clearing out my room. Getting rid of the first date Starbucks cup 🥹 its time. It’s about 4 1/2 years old now. I know, I know, gross (and I have a feeling there’s a spider living in it)

I kept it cos I was so proud of myself for going on that date - not cos of the guy, he wasn’t a keeper. He was a bit of a numpty, really.

It takes me soo long to decide on someone, so if it ends I’m completely crushed cos I truly love them. Took me two bloody years to go on a date with someone else, and I was so proud of it that I kept the cup, kind of like a trophy. Don’t need it anymore though. Dating is scary, but I’ve totally got this 🙏🏽

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Jeroen ✅ 1y ago

Amazing story, it's like a victory cup! Maybe just kick out the spider and keep it after all? 😜

3shara 1y ago

It totally is! You get it 🫂 but I got to let it go 🥹 spider and all 🫂🫂🫂 things feel different now, I feel more confident that I don’t need a reminder that I was once brave anymore 🫂

Jeroen ✅ 1y ago

That's good. People grow. We learn, we overcome, we get stronger. You got this 💭💪

I have a couple memorabilia from important learning, never throwing those out. Like to have something physical rather than in my mind.

3shara 1y ago

🫂🫂💯💪🏽

That’s wonderful 🥹🫂🫂 nah I get that too. I’ve kept a diary since I was about 11 years old so I keep those and a few letters and things too. I like to look back, but only to move forwards 🫂

Jeroen ✅ 1y ago

wow that must be a stack of diaries. Wish I did that. Must be so cool to read your past thoughts and view on life 🤔💭

3shara 1y ago

I was pretty bad at updating it so it’s not so many, but it is very cool and very funny to read 😂🫂 would highly recommend starting one whenever, cos your old thoughts will always delight you 🫂

Ground Ramen 1y ago

Whoa whoa whoa… what’s a numpty???

3shara 1y ago

I love how that’s the bit that people ask about 😂🫂🫂🫂 it’s a slang word for ‘stupid’ here, but a nice way of saying it

Ground Ramen 1y ago

Well…I understand the rest of the post lol. 😂

3shara 1y ago

🫂🫂🫂🙏🏽🥹

MAHDOOD 1y ago

You went on one date with this guy or was he a boyfriend?

3shara 1y ago

Was two dates and he made me wait 8 hours on the third date 😂 dating is rough 🙈 my big brother was pissed at me for letting him do that. Definitely not a boyfriend, but I was proud of myself for getting out there again 🥹

MAHDOOD 1y ago

This is not healthy, love. It shouldn’t take you two years to move on 😅

3shara 1y ago

I don’t take love lightly. I’m old school

MAHDOOD 1y ago

Definitely not writing you that poem anymore 😂

liminal 🦠 1y ago

8 hours?! 😱 he's right 💀 thats so disrespectful

3shara 1y ago

I’d only really dated the one guy so I didn’t know much about dating 🙏🏽 learnt since then 😂🫂🫂

Luna 1y ago

😳

3shara 1y ago

😂🫂🫂💜

Cameri🐦‍🔥 1y ago

Keeping mementos/trophies from past relationships could be taken the wrong way by your future suitors 😅

3shara 1y ago

It was just 2 dates 😭😂 the guy himself was not the point 🫂 it was just a reminder that id be okay, even if i got hurt again

Also, never had a guy in my room before so he’d probably never know, but of course if something gets serious then I’d get rid of old stuff 🫂 I think until a guy is exclusive with you and is your boyfriend he can’t really say much.

SGT.FISH 1y ago

What is a numpty lol

3shara 1y ago

You 🥹

3shara 1y ago

Just kidddinggg 😂🫂 sorry, I had to. A numpty is a kind way of calling someone ‘stupid’ 😂🫂

SGT.FISH 1y ago

You are good 😂😂

Actually made me laugh i set my self up for that one

3shara 1y ago

😂🤣😂☺️🫂

liminal 🦠 1y ago

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just one more thing 1y ago

i feel compelled to let people know that a numpty is British slang for a bit of a stupid person