Then one of us is wrong. I alone have the “publish” button.

We tackle every detail in debates and grant the others’ good points, so we rarely hit a standstill. Usually we end up agreeing. It doesn’t take much. Standstills mostly result from people who don’t want to debate or who can’t debate. We don’t have that issue.

Covid vaccination was our longest debate, still ongoing, but it no longer affects macro. And my main point was that nobody should be forced to get it. And we joke about it now, like my liberal mom who is more left than both of us sent me a serious text saying not to get an MMR booster since I almost died from it as a baby, so I sent it to my husband like “apparently here’s my origin story as a conservative anti-vaxxer, btw”.

So if we disagree on a material post, I feel the need to argue it and sometimes slightly reword it, after his pushback. It makes the article better. But should we somehow still disagree, I’m the one that presses publish on all my platforms. The final arbiter.

He has final say elsewhere in many other areas.

But I’ve never had to publish without his blessing. I analyze and tweak to get his agreement, because he’s a great critic.