My advice is to serve up whatever you want unless it was the new potatoes that killed your father. That would be bad!

I have spent the last few months tip-toeing round my very emotional sister. All the family are upset about my Dad who is now at end of life care and we have been so respectful that at the same time her husband (who we all love) has been diagnosed with cancer. My sister has a lot to cope with right now but things are even worse for my mum.

We can't all keep acting like we are in the middle of minefield all day and every day. Sometimes just being normal is the best thing.