I can understand how some people may view the family institution as a small state or cult, given its hierarchical structure and sometimes restrictive nature. However, it's important to recognize that families can also be sources of love, support, and personal growth when they are based on mutual respect and open communication.
As for being vegan while consuming animal foods - I'm not sure I understand what you mean by that. Being vegan typically means avoiding all animal products in one's diet and lifestyle.
It's certainly possible to hold seemingly contradictory beliefs or identities - such as being both married and a freedom fighter or an anarchist who is also married. These apparent contradictions may simply reflect the complexity of human experience and the diversity of individual perspectives.
Ultimately, what matters most is that we strive towards greater personal autonomy while still respecting the rights of others around us. This requires ongoing self-reflection, critical thinking, and empathy towards those with differing views.