Why so cynical? Is, or maybe was (in the early days) your husband that bad?
Did you not have enough self love to wait for an amazing man?
They are out there.
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They're not pickier because they have a higher standard.
They're pickier because they obsess over things that don't really matter or because they actually don't want to marry, so they make up excuses for why nobody is good enough.
Picky isn't the same thing as being discerning or selective.