Very, very true.

That and we don't know the extent of the interaction.

The other thing too:

Even when life IS polarizing, literally as extreme as what you described; life is like that but we're not.

We have both yin and yang ☯️ so there will be engagements where we're one, others when we're the other, and even those when we're both!!

My neurologist used to say the concept of life being shades of gray failed when they'd be instances of one extreme being only that one extreme. That if anything, the grays existed only by the varying intensities of either extremes.

I wish I remembered his words correctly. He was one of the very few doctors that still really cared for making a difference in his patients.

It is more about what people put in these words. Not particularly related to this context, but "take responsibility" is a phrase used by governments (at least the Swedish one, but I think more too) to say "abide by the laws that we have made" or "do what we want in excess of the laws that we made" when talking about citizens and companies, and "put more laws in place" when talking about themselves. I don't think many bitcoiners agree with that definition. If that definition is on one end, and "hold your own keys, store them securely" etc. is on the other end, that's quite a wide spectrum.

"Stay open to self reflection" The people I'm talking about are extremely selective about this. If the "self reflection" reinforces the beliefs they already have, they'll do it, otherwise no. Probably a human thing, and to some extent the opposite of self reflection, but they brag about it consistently. Bordering, if not outright, hypocrisy.

"Be confident" - not in something I don't understand. That's downright lying, and can be dangerous. (e.g. "sure, I'll take down this tree..."). I believe this is part of an American/European difference, that I've noticed since someone pointed it out. Americans see Europeans as defeatist, not confident, while Europeans see Americans as bragging and arrogant. While we probably think similarly enough, we communicate it way differently.

"stop being offended" - It's a false premise to begin with that you can control your emotions - what I guess you're getting at is you can refrain from showing it to others, and that is the definition of taking shit from people. A big reason we have got to the point we have in overreach by governments is precisely because either too few people are offended, or too few people are showing it, through letters, protests, etc.