That is definitely not true when they are infants. Twins are not twice as hard, they are 10x harder. When you have one baby who wants to be held, you still have 3 hands and the person holding the baby can do something. When you have 2, one person is either trapped or both are one handed. Add to that the staggered sleeping and feeding and you get insane sleep deprivation. nostr:nprofile1qqspd02uap9euad07q8sd4clj3n7vtdr3qf3drdy3w8wk6aduhae8ycpz4mhxue69uhhyetvv9ujuerpd46hxtnfduhszrnhwden5te0dehhxtnvdakz7pqhkkl knows. Or we are just doing a bunch of things wrong!
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Got a 3yo and 5 month old. Pretty sure I'd be crying and dead if they were twins.
having had a singleton and then twins, I wouldn't say it's ten times harder. I think a lot of the difficulty comes from whether it's your first baby and not so much that there's two. Having twins as your first babies is extra hard mode.
When it comes to soothing two babies at once, I see if one can be bounced in the bouncer. Still trapped because I'm holding one and bouncing once but at least I have one hand free to dick around on my phone. When we need to carry two babies at once, it usually isn't for a long time so I'll carry them in my arms or wear them in the twin carrier. Even though the carrier means I'm handsfree, the bulkiness of wearing two babies makes it hard to do much else.
During the day, we try to sync their feeds and naps as much as possible. Sometimes they will both sleep at the same time which would be prime adult nap time but we have our first born who is on one nap a day so very rarely do all three nap simultaneously. At night, I take care of them solo and prefer to have them a little staggered. As they got bigger they feed more easily and are soothed back to sleep easily. On a good night, I'll get two 2 hr stretches of sleep and then when my husband swaps with me in the morning, I get a 3 hrs stretch uninterrupted. It is getting a little better every day as they get bigger.
hope all is well with you and yours ❤️
