You need to ensure that your relay supports kind 1059 events, as this might be the reason for the issue.
Hey nostr:npub1tm99pgz2lth724jeld6gzz6zv48zy6xp4n9xu5uqrwvx9km54qaqkkxn72
I setup a Secret chat between myself and my wife using my relay:
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It didn't work, we couldn't exchange messages, despite both our npub's having write access to this relay.
So I deleted that secret chat and setup a new one using your (default) relay and this worked, we can chat back and forth.
Is this a relay issue, does my relay.tools relay not support the required NIP?
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