Hey nostr:npub1tm99pgz2lth724jeld6gzz6zv48zy6xp4n9xu5uqrwvx9km54qaqkkxn72

I setup a Secret chat between myself and my wife using my relay:

https://nortis.nostr1.com/

a hosted service on

https://relay.tools/

It didn't work, we couldn't exchange messages, despite both our npub's having write access to this relay.

So I deleted that secret chat and setup a new one using your (default) relay and this worked, we can chat back and forth.

Is this a relay issue, does my relay.tools relay not support the required NIP?

Thanks