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I called out someone on a twitter space earlier for using “his mom” as a foil for a non-technical person who might struggle to understand self custody

this is something I’ve thought about quite a bit — i wrote up some longer thoughts on the overusage of “mom” as a know-nothing tech person 6y ago

tldr: i understand why it’s something people reach for natively but im not sure it’s a good idea to keep casting implicit shade on mother’s capacity for understanding (even if in your case, it’s a true statement)

https://basicbitch.software/posts/2018-08-05-Dear-Mother.html

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SoupBox 2y ago

i feel guilty now because i did this recently, but i was just speaking from my experience. my dad knows computers, my mom doesn't. Maybe the kids who all grew up with phones in their hands will change this. I grew up without internet, so we are the last wave.

niftynei() 🇺🇸💸🧡 2y ago

it’s lindy for a reason, it probably won’t ever change 😂

Carman 2y ago

My mom loves it, she's like I know you'll talk about me in any podcast you do

niftynei() 🇺🇸💸🧡 2y ago

wow what a cool mom. i’d bet everyone who does it’s mom is proud of them

niftynei() 🇺🇸💸🧡 2y ago

nobody 2y ago

People can use whatever reference best suits their personal circumstances.

Absolutely no one is using the term 'mom' as an intentionally derogatory placeholder for the technologically illiterate - certainly not outside of their own life experiences.

I'm so sick of people like you trying to manage the speech of others. GFY.

ᴛʜᴇ ᴅᴇᴀᴛʜ ᴏꜰ ᴍʟᴇᴋᴜ 2y ago

my mother has been managing her own linux installation for a decade

ᴛʜᴇ ᴅᴇᴀᴛʜ ᴏꜰ ᴍʟᴇᴋᴜ 2y ago

i taught her... she's a really smart lady my mother, DIY mindset, in her teens and 20s was into the whole "self sufficiency" trip that was the thing in the 70s

i'd also go further than my hypocrisy comment above to also point out that most people are too busy being puppeteered by the system to have the time to learn anything and words like "my mom" and "normies" exist because it's not just a generalization it's the fucking reality, you have to go in with that expectation and occasionally you will be surprised but rarely, one in 10 or less

niftynei() 🇺🇸💸🧡 2y ago

if you’re so tired of it, why you doing it??

nobody 2y ago

Oh you are flipping to being victim are you?

Give me a break.

niftynei() 🇺🇸💸🧡 2y ago

I pointed out your behavior mimics the very thing that i did that disgusted you

ngl the uno reverso attempt is pretty funny 😄

nobody 2y ago

No you didn't do that at all. My comment responding to you in no way equates to your pathetic attempt to collectively shame everybody from using a particular term because you personally find it offensive.

People use 'mom' 'dad' 'pops' 'nan' etc interchangeably with regard to addressing the technologically illiterate but here you are trying to drum up the use of the term 'mom' in this context as somehow inappropriate and offensive in some bullshit feminist context.

Gross. People can use whatever term they deem appropriate and they should ignore people like you who seem to be hyper offended by everything.

ᴛʜᴇ ᴅᴇᴀᴛʜ ᴏꜰ ᴍʟᴇᴋᴜ 2y ago

hypocrisy is pathetic not disgusting

you want to do disgusting, go on, there's many ways to be disgusting but you aren't doing them as far as i can see

ᴛʜᴇ ᴅᴇᴀᴛʜ ᴏꜰ ᴍʟᴇᴋᴜ 2y ago

you invoked the mother, you soak the damage

ᴛʜᴇ ᴅᴇᴀᴛʜ ᴏꜰ ᴍʟᴇᴋᴜ 2y ago

i think that getting upset about other people's generalizations by making more generalizations is hypocrisy

ᴛʜᴇ ᴅᴇᴀᴛʜ ᴏꜰ ᴍʟᴇᴋᴜ 2y ago

i think that getting upset about other people's generalizations *and* making more generalizations is hypocrisy

you can't criticize something with the same error you are criticizing

that's what hypocrisy means

niftynei() 🇺🇸💸🧡 2y ago

im sorry your mom is bad at tech. mine isnt 🤷

niftynei() 🇺🇸💸🧡 2y ago

hope that clears up the “being too general” 🫡

ᴛʜᴇ ᴅᴇᴀᴛʜ ᴏꜰ ᴍʟᴇᴋᴜ 2y ago

my mother has been running an ubuntu PC for 10 years

niftynei() 🇺🇸💸🧡 2y ago

you said i was being too general, now u mad im too specific 🤣

maybe we could try, oh i dont know, leaving mom out of it??

ᴛʜᴇ ᴅᴇᴀᴛʜ ᴏꜰ ᴍʟᴇᴋᴜ 2y ago

and 99% of the world's population will be happy that you aren't saying things about their mothers

when they say things about their mothers, that's their business

don't try to tell them what they can say about their mothers

have you got children?

the axiom 2y ago

Do you have kids?

Ľḭṿḙśƫṟãɖãṁṹṧ💫#RunCoreV30 2y ago

I agree.

I haven’t ever thought of this but thank you for bringing it some light.