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It’s important to remember when we think about this, that it doesn’t mean that nothing we do matters. To the contrary, who you teach your kids to be, and thus who your dependents are, will have thousands of times the impact you had and possibly for a near eternity moving forward. They won’t remember you, but the values and understanding you gave the next generation will remain and lead to a positive feedback loop that is quite possibly, limitless.

So accept that you will be forgotten. It is a necessary part of the continuation and flourishing of life. And honestly who gives a shit if someone 100 years from now is still spreading rumors about us? They don’t and can’t ever know who we were anyway. But our descendants will still be here. They will still be told stories and lessons that you taught your kids. Whether they have any idea of it or not.

Your kids are the means by which you will live forever. They carry just enough that matters, and leave all the arbitrary specifics behind.

• Don’t live the life someone else wants you to live, live the one you want.

• What we do matters, leave behind a value and love of life and the meaning of your existence may never have a conclusion. You have no idea how great the butterfly effect of your actions and what you teach your kids could really be. nostr:note146yqp5trlae5wtaqy8zu73hku02xatue49ejrns05tlxm8f8jc6qlclhz4

kriskoeh 1y ago 💬 2

I dunno. My mom taught me values and I grew up and changed every single one. 🤣

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JuAnHu 1y ago

Show the next generation all the options and show them how to make up their minds. They will do so. The more they have seen and the less burden is put upon them, the better their values and decisions will be.

Guy Swann 1y ago

I think we often mistake “values” for surface level opinions or judgments on some issue. When what I’m referring to is much deeper, it’s in the mental models for making those judgements, the framing of our relationships, and other foundational things that are never spoken, but learned entirely through our lives interacting with other people.

For example, my son Rad still doesn’t really talk, but he has picked up and learned an insane amount already, particularly in how he relates to other people.

I think it’s easy to see where we may disagree with people we love, and often miss that our disagreement may actually lie in how *similar* we frame or think of the world, rather than how differently we do. Your mom may have taught you a lot more than you realize, and that independent attitude and reaching your own conclusions, the source of your disagreement, may be something you learned from her. 😊