Indeed. It's the love and purpose of good relationships that matter, not marriage in itself. It can happen within that framework but that doesn't mean everyone will find it that way - or that it will last.
Speaking from bitter experience here. But I'm also a bit older, seems like most posts celebrating marriage unconditionally come from milennials who are just getting started with family life and thus have a more rose tinted view than this old heathen.
Iām on my second marriage. I learned what you wrote the hard way. Experience is hard earned sometimes.
Marriage is what you make of it in my view.
This a very underrated statement.
My wife and I were always ride or die (h/t and happy anniversary nostr:nprofile1qqsqfjg4mth7uwp307nng3z2em3ep2pxnljczzezg8j7dhf58ha7ejgpp4mhxue69uhkummn9ekx7mqprpmhxue69uhhqun9d45h2mfwwpexjmtpdshxuet5hgfg9w). Too many couples give up at too soon. "No fault divorce" made it worse. The welfare state that seperated family stability from financial security was another erosion. Making everyone believe you have a "right" to be happy (without work) was the final break with reality.
Wife and I are 29 years in and going strong...Just a bit slower š¤£.
Lower your time preference. If you can wake up next to someone you've shared the majority of you life with, its a great day!
KIDS MAKE IT EVEN BETTER.
