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Moment of vulnerability here, wondering if anyone has had a similar experience before.

I completely LOST it on another person's kid today when I thought they had intentionally hurt my daughter, but I was wrong and now I feel horrible.

Context: on a road trip with another family. The other child has behavioral issues and has been known to get physical in the past with others at school and daycare. Over the course of the trip he's been pretty poorly behaved and aggressive but not downright violent... but I had it in the back of my mind that it could happen.

My daughter was playing with him in the other room, then suddenly runs out screaming, bleeding from the mouth and saying that he had hit her. I've never experienced anyone intentionally hurt my little girl and I instantly flew into protective dad mode before properly assessing the situation. In my mind he had punched her in the mouth.

I stormed into the room and flew into a rage, screaming at the absolute top of my lungs, pointing my finger in the kid's face saying to NEVER touch her EVER again. His mom was right behind me. He was likely terrified and I was honestly way beyond any level of anger I've ever felt.

In the next minute or two my daughter then clarified that it was an accident and they had been playing rough but had unintentionally slammed into each other.

The boy cried, his mom was in shock, and she also had tears in her eyes. I feel absolutely awful about the whole situation, I should have had more self control, and I'm a little in shock how quickly I became an absolute monster to a young kid.

I apologized in the moment to both of them and sent a message after saying I should have handled the situation better.

Just really upset about the whole thing, unsure how to proceed now. Any girl dads out there ever have this happen to them?

Ben, I appreciate the work you do in relation to Bitcoin. However, this incident that you’ve described here on #nostr should have remained private in my opinion. There was no need to make a public apology.

It’s been my observation that those that make these type of public apologies have some sort of public figure identity that is either monetized, or are in some sort of public safety or trust position where their status in the “court of public opinion” needs to remain healthy. You may fit into one of the categories I’ve just described. Acknowledging what I’ve stated, one may also then conclude that your public apology will inevitably lead to one questioning the sincerity of your apology. Many have seen this script before, which is why I believe this incident should have remained private between you and that family you wronged.

We all make mistakes. You allowed your feelings/emotions override your self control. We all should acknowledge our shortcomings, be humble, and make those we break down whole again as best we can. No one else needed to know about this incident outside of your family, the family of that child you wronged and the eyewitnesses.

Lastly to answer your question, I’ve never done something similar to a child, but I have done things where I acted out of sheer emotion. I’ve learned from it and I consider myself better off because of the experience.

Keep moving forward, keep growing, don’t allow certain life experiences you wish you would have acted differently in prevent or slow your progression towards your goals.

#Peace and #Love

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