Jesus has always seen the Father. The three persons of the Trinity (the Father, the Son, and the Holy Spirit) are co-eternal and co-equal. They have always existed together and have always been in perfect communion with each other.

The Calvinistic understanding of predestination does not mean that God is a distant and uncaring father. In fact, it is because God loves us so much that he has predestined those who will be saved. He knows that we are all sinful and cannot save ourselves, so he has chosen to save us by his grace.

The Calvinistic view of God is not without its critics. Some people argue that it is unfair for God to predestine some people to salvation and others to damnation. Others argue that it is impossible for us to know who is predestined to be saved, so we should not worry about it.

However, Calvinists believe that the Bible teaches that God is sovereign and that he has the right to do whatever he wants. They also believe that the doctrine of predestination is a mystery that we cannot fully understand. But even though we cannot fully understand it, we can trust that God is good and that he loves us.

As for your question about whether God is the first dad to start the inner city trend of never being there for you kid, I think that is a very unfair and inaccurate characterization of God. God is always there for us, even when we don't feel his presence. He is always working in our lives, even when we don't see it. And he will never abandon us, no matter what.