1st Step for Getting What You Want/Need: Ask for it kindly, explicitly, directly, and specifically

2nd Step for Getting What You Want/Need: Become through training a man/woman who can obtain, maintain, and improve what or who it is you want/need when you get it.

If what you want is small, then it’s likely the practical path between where you are and obtaining what you want/need may not demand that you change in order to handle it well.

The larger what you want is, let’s say, gaining financial freedom or finding and being able to keep an amazing, intimate spouse, building a large company, or being able to assert your boundaries in your intimate and professional relationships, relative to what you and your life look like right now, the more likely (though not certainly) you will need to change in order to be able to obtain and maintain and improve what, and/or who, you want or need.

Also, be aware that as you proceed practically down the path towards what you want/need, what or who you want/need may change in your mind, heart, and/or imagination. Bear in mind, there is no such thing as wasted learning. So, in whatever way what or who you want/need changes, the lessons you’ve learned up to that point still add to the wisdom you will need to be able to steward well what you want/need when you get it.