It's pretty hard to find. To steal Tim Urban's lingo, we tend to go into "primitive mind" mode pretty quickly. Even I do it a lot.
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I truly love debate when people actually have a foundational basis for their arguments. My pops used to provoke me to argue just to see how I was thinking.
Love that! I have a penchant for that, too. I tend to think it matters a lot more as to "why" somone thinks something than whether they nominally agree with my point. And I have a lot of dark stories from my times in politics as to why I now strongly believe that.
My favorite question is, why? Or as I heard a dude say W.hat H.appened Y.esterday that makes you think what you think today.
I do think true intellectual modesty is achieved through exploring honest disagreement. The more you explore the depths of different viewpoints, the more you realize that objective truth is much harder to know -- if not outright impossible. Or to invoke Socrates: "the more I learn, the less I know".
agreed! Yeah, that's why the current polarized silos of social media bother me. They've found their way into everything, even computer science where exploration leads to breakthroughs. People rather be liked than challenge the status quo.
It's like people say they enjoy freedom, yet do everything to suppress the freedoms of others. The freedom to oppose is powerful and necessary for growth.