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campusalot 2d ago

manners are not universal

being conscientious, sure

being deferential, sure

manners? whose? in what context?

manner

- A way of doing something or the way in which a thing is done or happens: synonym: method.

"prepared for the trip in a very organized manner."

Similar: method

- A way of acting; bearing or behavior.

"He is known for his reserved manner."

- The socially correct way of acting; etiquette.

"had trouble mastering manners in his new country."

a matter of class, of upbringing, of religion, of culture

what are poor manners ultimately?

a way of being that causes offensive without consciously intending to do so because of ignorance, nescience, or thoughtlessness, or lack of care

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campusalot 2d ago

your actual manners can be objectively so shit, you can so dearly do the wrong thing, but as long as you are inherently deferential, open to learning, quick to fix it on their terms of how to fix it,

golden most of the time

cos no one expects everyone to know everything and manners were not invented as weapon. isnt an invention of cruelty and exclusion. they didnt emerge up from cultures to hurt the people.

emerged naturally as a necessity to help the people. methods of belonging. i know this song. i know this dance. of course i do. im home.