nostr:npub1rtlqca8r6auyaw5n5h3l5422dm4sry5dzfee4696fqe8s6qgudks7djtfs has great advice for dealing with these types of situations:

https://v.nostr.build/HUQxtoy4o1CgRIMy.mp4 nostr:note1vgx9cddqa4krwpevrpkjpefnu5y0p3qyg9anxaf6r3kjh7q5qghqqeykc5