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Word of advice for anyone with hoarder elderly relatives that you don't see too often.

Do wellness checks physically where they live.

I just visited my aunt. I couldnt last 10 minutes inside. The smell of animal piss. The entire inventory of QVC spread everywhere. The overwhelming mold smell and dust with signs of basement water damage.

I have a fucking migraine now. I have a real estate license and I'm almost certain that this house I was going to inherit some day. May have to be condemned now. Then the only living relatives with partial ownership of her house and the ones that can do something about it. Are putting their heads in the sand and ignoring the issue.

Plus the mold has quite literally drove her insane and now she flies into rages for no reason. Holy fuck man....

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Comte de Sats Germain 1y ago

Oh jeez... That'll be my mom someday. She's a hoarder.

BitTiger 1y ago

Dude no joke. Be proactive about it if you can and love her. Never let it get this bad.

This is a brutal fucking nightmare of a situation. That branches out into much deeper family drama. This fucking mold and whatever other pathogens are in there. Literally drove my aunt insane.

We had to cut her off from visiting our house, because of the sudden fits of rage and insanity. Which extreme cases of mold and other pathogens will cause. With a buffet of other health issues.

Now I finally know why!!!!!!

Comte de Sats Germain 1y ago

Mold can kill. It'll be some serious work, but if you can kill the mold, you'll probably be saving her life. And maybe without it she'll return to sanity. Also maybe put a cat door into one of the doors and move the litter box outside.

BitTiger 1y ago

I know. This is a very very very very serious situation. My mom is the only one that can do anything. I literally snapped in the car on the ride home from near blind fury. My fucking throat was going hoarse trying to stress how fucking severe of a situation this is.

I was fucking holding back vomiting as I got in the house. My mom looked near dead with eyes closed shut. My aunt just bat shit crazy talk LA de freaking DA. Like nothing is wrong.

I had to mouth out we have to leave NOW!!!

Never got big ass suitcases into a a car and out of a place so fucking fast. My mom started to get better on the ride home and looked normal again.

I have no legal authority. Yet I am the only real adult in my family. I can't have anyone declared insane without fracturing my family. All in all this is a cluster fuck. I am not sure how to deal with it all. My mom says it is not my problem. Yet I am the closest relative on this side of the fucking world. So it very is much my fucking problem.

Thanks for letting me vent. This is a nightmare.

Lesson for today is if you have a hoarder relative. Try to save their ass before it is too late. No one should have to EVER deal with bullshit of this magnitude.

Comte de Sats Germain 1y ago

Yep. I'm glad its not me in this situation, at least for now. The key, I think, will be to be patient but resolute - get masks, some kind of mold killing chemical, a bucket, and try to recruit someone to help. I think I've seen people fumigate houses for mold - it grows in walls, so the fumes get every cranny you can't get by moving things. Probably not cheap, but maybe a few people can pitch in. If you find all the solutions and present them, people will probably go with your choice of how to handle it. And this can be an opportunity to build a closer relationship with some people.