Yes but I wouldn't say they're fucked in the head. Inexperienced men that fall in love and marry are doomed from the start. Men are sold the white knight story from a very early age, at least I was. The idea that being a good guy is a noble pursuit.
Just trying to warn/inform men and potentially women with what I'm saying. Though the warning will most likely fall on deaf ears, I would have also disregarded everything I just said just a few years ago.
I would listen to this after my first heartbreak. The problem is finding it through the noise of bad relationship advice. I think most men and women are good and want healthy honest relationships. The problem is they just have the wrong expectations of relationships. Your partner can’t be everything in your life: best friend, lover, business partner, gym buddy, recreational partner, bitcoiner, coparent, therapist.
The knight story and being a good man are noble pursuits. It's kind of what it's all about. The issue is: are you really a good man? Are you really strong? What are you pursuing? Is it worth it?
A truly strong man asks himself these questions anyway and figures it out eventually.
These are not noble pursuits imo
