there are multiple reasons why DNMs overwhelmingly prefer monero over bitcoin and not a single one of them has ever accepted the lightning network. some of the reasons don't even have anything to do with privacy. you sound like you are the one who doesn't get it. I'm glad the administrators of DNMs don't listen to stupid people like you.
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Of course, they can't do what they would like to be true, or what maxis would like them to do, or what is politically correct, or what sounds good.
They do what works, because it's their ass on the line.
And what works is #monero