You have to learn to switch off … disconnect from the world. That’s why I quit my 9-5 job and now work from home. I earn less, but I am able to switch off a lot more … I just take a nap 😴 whenever I need to disconnect
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I have people that depend on me.
To make a change, when we have people at our care ( I am a single mother with a daughter and 2 grandsons), and being my own support net, it's difficult not to fear the consequences of changing life decisions..
If it goes wrong I loose my stability and have no one to rely on.
If I was alone, I would be fearful yes, but it would be different, because the impact it's only my responsibility and I could take it.
It's a man's world, still. With my age, and as a woman, is very difficult to be accepted in a new job. Young people and without family take preference.
That’s why I made a conscious decision to stay single. I can’t handle the stress of raising a family with a 9-5 job. I’m just saving for retirement and I think my savings are enough. The flip side is that I’ll have to take care of myself when I’m old even if money is not an issue. I must stay mentally capable to take care of myself
Mentally and Physically, you can't forget both are important.
I was too lost when young to make conscious decisions. My parents where both absent. I made a lot of mistakes and had to grow up fast to be able to take care of myself and to become independent as fast as I could. No emotional support, and emotional needs being dismissed, with silence or upfront dismissal, and plus, every help, coming with a charge....
This are just facts. It's how my family dynamic works and I have accepted without blame.
I had a long way to be where I am now, and went through a lot of emotional turmoil and abuse until open my eyes to what I was accepting as normal but totally unhealthy..
Very young I saw how some people are so transactional and conditional, doing things not out of care, but expecting something in return.
Still, today, I have to put up with a lot because the only way to stay healthy is to keep away from some unhealthy dynamics and now everyone was put again inside my house, cause of my father. Lol
You see, that's why I only want to experience unconditional reciprocity in my life. I already have it in my inner circle.
I don't want to connect with people that just come to me for what I have to offer, not giving anything in return.
I have experienced that through out my life and it only leaves you with a bitter taste and a sour heart. I refuse to turn bitter.
I know humans can do better than that. And I believe in love, unconditional giving, kindness and magic ! ✨🎉🙌🫂
I’m always here for you fren 😀