We agree! But is less terrifying when you have done the homework right?
Discussion
It's terrifying when you haven't already examined the possibility of a major drawback, and aren't looking sufficiently into the future. If you brace yourself for the possibility, when it happens it's not so scary. It's all just a part of your longterm plans.
Amen! Suggestions to achieve that sen state?
Start with the perspective that there is no greater intention in the universe. It's all just cause and effect operating within the bounds of physics.