zap events are so flakey. it's because they need free open relays, and those are throttled and lossy. especially for one off keys and etc. if there was a list of known nodes pubkeys, or a zaps relay, or something that, could help but otherwise it's a tragedy of the commons.

same goes for giftwraps. without using nip42 auth, they will just be attacked, throttled, extinguished. just nostr isnt popular enough yet to matter, so I'm waiting to see what happens eventually.