“I’m at the stage of my life where I don’t want to be crazy in love anymore. I want to be calm in love, patient in love, happy in love, and understood in love.”
~Michael Hageman
Discussion
I’ll take crazy
Don’t you both have wives?
I’ll take crazy and happy and understood in love
So what does crazy in love mean to you?
Having a suffocating childhood crush.
I felt infatuated this year which hadn’t happened in far too long a time. It was lovely. But a suffocating crush doesn’t sound appealing.
At the time it was torture, but in the presence of time I reminisce fondly on the intensity of those feelings. A fire that burns hot, usually burns for a shorter period of time comparatively in my experience, I prefer the steady heat of a love like slow burning hardwood over a deep bed of embers. Infatuation can settle into such of course, and it is always fun.
I like that. “I prefer the steady heat of a love like slow burning hardwood over a deep bed of embers.”
Oh, how do I put this into words 🤔In any case, the second part is also important, the love should make us happy and we should feel understood. But also exuberant, tingly,... Do things together, which so just together can make and feel. The thought of each other makes you smile. Lots of butterflies in the stomach... 🫣🤷🏼♀️
I want excitement but no butterflies. I’ve had this dream where I was facing a guy, we were really close, bound up to go bungee jumping but I felt so serene. We were looking in each others eyes as we sailed through the air, a feeling of serenity and calm. It was such a happy peaceful dream.
The feeling of being with the right person makes you quite calm.
That I can expose the darkest parts of me and know that I will be loved without conditions. That I want to shower my wife with affection, protect her with my life, grow old and wrinkly, and never stop wanting to devour her. That her ideas and intelligence fuels my drive to better myself. That I’m never tired of waking up, dreaming, and building a future full of experiences with her. This is crazy in love to me.