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Your ability to change yourself is limited.

We've been fed lies about how we can be or do anything we desire. Not only does this set us up for a life of disappointment, but it's making claims about our internal state that just aren't true.

Yes, there are people that have had dramatic changes both internally and externally. But that's much more the exception and not the rule. Most people have a limited range of change.

But because of this dumb pop psych belief, most people go for drastic changes and fail.

We need to be a lot more humble about change. That lets us be a lot more thankful when we improve instead of depressed when we aren't perfect.

melissa 2y ago

But what makes a person the exception? In my experience it's often that the majority don't have the persistence, desire and commitment to see through change. Most people don't understand that big change doesn't happen overnight, that it takes time, months, if not years to bring about that change. For the majority, often, there is a desire for a quick fix, instant gratification and if there is no result in a short time then it's just too hard. 💯

I could be wrong, but as someone who has inconsistently worked hard on my mindset for over ten years, I do believe if people really do want change, assuming they can create the habits, persistence and commitment to achieve it, they can make change. In saying this, they still may not be whatever they desire to be, but maybe something closer than they imagined possible. 🦋✨

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Gunya 2y ago

I strongly believe that Henry Ford was right in saying “Those who believe they can do something and those who believe they can’t are both right.”

I agree, it’s all about believe and persistence.

Though in current era of quick and easy rewards most of us have lost both, believe and persistence.

melissa 2y ago

Yes to this 🙌🙌