We can’t always be perfect. Love doesn’t need to be withdrawn at every little error- but gentle reminders and communication help the other person know where they are.
Forgiveness within reason is of course necessary. There needs to be flexibility.
It’s an underlying somewhat silent set of conditions (if things are going reasonably well). Infinitely complex.
"infinitely complex"
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since you shared so much, let me share where i'm coming from with this.
like i mentioned earlier, we aren't perfect. sometimes my Wife will do or say something that gets me to *feel* disrespected.
in the past, this would cause me to withdraw (drawing boundaries), which would escalate the tension.
now, despite feeling hurt and disrespected, i continue to stay close, i continue to pour love into Her, i choose to stay loving. because i know that She loves me. i still feel loved by Her.
the end result is that She ends up acknowledging what happened, making amends, and respecting me more for staying consistent and connected.
i'm not sure if this is a result of the dynamic we share or emotional maturity, or something else. but it makes made me wonder about the relationship between feeling respected and feeling loved.
nostr:npub19vw7zdr07yyhdw8ns3d26c26n70mh2090d4cr6m24c8ee8wjpq0qg0m7ps just because you shared with me too
thanks, gentlemen~! <3
Beautiful said. Disconnecting because one feels disrespected without making space for understanding and without communication to understand what just happened is coming from a place of love but rather of indifference. Love cannot thrive in a restrictive space like this. We all are flawed and experience life differently. And probably even the definition of respect may differ from person to person.
thank you ^^
and spot-on analysis. not only do the definitions vary, but they will most likely change over time.
i appreciate your addition to the conversation, Cristalina. :3
Thank you. I believe in unconditional love between all beens. It's beautiful to watch how love can expand people and make them growth more vulnerable and more authentic. I understand that some dynamic can be harder than others. Depends on previous situations, how we react, how we get triggered to heal. nostr:nprofile1qqs8nxvpg9shg0ez0yqx4vgvlkpm6vadlu3ushjan5y5nlwkp783jqgpzemhxue69uhhyetvv9ujumn0wd68ytnzv9hxgqgcwaehxw309ac8yetdd96k6tnswf5k6ctv9ehx2aqpzfmhxue69uhhqatjwpkx2urpvuhx2ucx0aqs4, I appreciate your insight and agree with most, except one thing. All the things that were said are very import between people, I don't think they are conditions but elements necessary to build a strong foundation. With these elements present, good communication, respect, loyalty and trust, a beautiful uncontional healthy relationsgip can be build.
We are always ever hanging. Sometimes, we part ways because we don't resonate or because there are inherent incompatibilities, but when we love one another, where there is will, there is always a way.
