a lot of guys don't know how to carry their pain. myself included.

we think we hold it well, but really, we look for distractions.

when a Woman is hurt, it overwhelms us. and because we're unable to hold our own pain we're incapable of holding Hers the way that's needed.

it's a feeling of helplessness.

so we rush to fix it. or minimize it. or retreat into "logic." or dismiss it entirely.

anything but witness it and accept it. anything to just make it stop. because it exposes us in one way or another.

we can't hold our partners the way they need us to if we can't even hold ourselves.