I don‘t experience this in the Ruby ecosystem. But probably because not that many people are writting Ruby.
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Yes, that's a smaller group. People tend to engage more, when it's a smaller group.
That's why I've been trying to network more. Create a sort of frens-cluster, where we engage regularly with the same people.
Like a sort of loosely-bound project team. Meet up in person. Have some chitchat. Plan conferences and national barbeques.
We need to form more Nostr-groups and we don't have to be Bitcoin millionaires to do it. We just need to be more local.
Another thing is that Nostr is a protocol, not a programming language, so we're often writing things other people can barely read.